"The Divine Brain"

Have you ever wondered why humans are the only species, as far as we know, that have the ability to worship, pray to, and commune with the divine? It might surprise you to learn that research in neuroscience, especially in the exciting field of neurotheology, suggests that one possible reason why every human society has a religion might be due to the notion that the human brain might have actually evolved to experience the sacred and divine as a survival strategy for our species. No matter if you call this sacred being God, Goddess, Buddha, Allah, Brahman, or Nature, there appears to be a fundamental neurobiological basis for why every human brain is wired for religious and mystical experiences. It is this very reason that accounts for the universality of religion in every culture in the world throughout human history.

Only in the past decade have we truly been able to start mapping the human brain of people during deep meditation, prayer, intense spiritual experiences, and religious epiphanies. Neural scans of the brains of Carmelite nuns, Zen Buddhist masters, adept Indian Yogis, and indigenous shamans when in deep and profound states of transcendence all report similar findings. There exist specific areas in the brain that fire when we connect to the sacred and pray to the divine. The primary areas are the temporal and frontal lobes in the brain where this phenomenon occurs. Watch video While I don’t advocate that these areas of the brain are the cause of religious experiences, there does appear to be a correlation between these areas of the brain and heightened spiritual states of consciousness. Even more astounding is that the results indicate that when these exact same areas of the brain are intentionally triggered using a magnetic device for those who claim to be atheists, similar experiences of awe and reverence for something transcendent are felt. The findings imply the possibility that regardless if you’re a true religious believer, a secularist, or an atheist, the same neural mechanisms of the human brain are responsible for processing the sacred and the divine.

So what exactly accounts for the reason our brains are wired to fire during contemplation, prayer, and meditation? One possible explanation into the neurobiology of belief in the divine might be an evolutionary strategy for survival of the species. If you’re wondering how religious belief in a transcendent being might have been key for survival of our species, it likely has to do with a biological need we humans have to make sense of the world. Imagine our early human ancestors having to cope with the hardships of a brutal life of surviving constant threats to survival. In the same way that human emotions such hope, faith, and trust might have evolved within the human psyche to cope in times of calamity and constant uncertainty, our human brain might also have developed a neurobiological mechanism for humans to survive in times of strife and suffering. That evolutionary trait would have created a neural structure in the human brain, ultimately passing down to us modern humans.

Another way to examine the issue is that religion might have evolved in the same way that humans developed the need for language. Regardless of the human neurobiological necessity to believe in a higher power, it appears that every human brain is wired to experience the divine, even in atheists! In the same way that every human brain is wired to acquire and speak a human language, it’s possible that every human brain is equally capable and neurologically wired to experience the divine. You might even think of religion as a form of language, a sacred language that enables us to communicate with the aspects of life that cause us wonder, awe, and reverence for the sacred. Just as every healthy brain of a baby is capable of acquiring any language in the world, similarly every human brain has the ability to acquire a religion. In the same way that English really isn’t inherently better than French, Arabic, Mandarin, or Swahili to express human thoughts and to share conceptual knowledge, likewise no religion is inherently better equipped to experience the numinous and divine. When viewed in this light, it really begins to seem pointless for humans to squabble over which religion is inherently superior to another. In the same vein, it would appear illogical to argue that English is ultimately better equipped to express human thoughts and ideas than Hebrew, Swedish, or Japanese.

Even if you choose not to believe in a divine power or subscribe to a particular religion, there are equally many positive health benefits to cultivating a spiritual practice. Whether you choose to practice prayer, meditation, mindfulness, or silent contemplation in nature, your brain experiences the same neural effects, all of which have tremendously beneficial health benefits for the body. Numerous studies indicate that regular prayer or meditation reduces stress while promoting immune system function and greater levels of wellbeing. Even more remarkable is that belief in a benign rather than a punitive deity reduces anxiety and increases feelings of love and compassion for self and others. By far the most amazing news to come out of contemplative neuroscience is that regular prayer and meditation can literally rewire your brain to change your attitude towards life for the better. 

Ultimately, the human need to experience faith and to commune with divine might have been a biological tool for survival among our early ancestors. It is likely this evolutionary reason why we observe that every human culture throughout history and every indigenous society observed around the world all have a form of religious worship. Just as the human species evolved areas in the brain for linguistic communication, neuroscience is equally suggesting that religious communication with the divine accounts for the universal human need to experience the sacred. While the ability to acquire a language is still a crucial and fundamental trait for human expression, it might just be that religion and faith are an equally necessary means for humans to engage with the sacred, the holy, and the divine elements of existence.

 

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The Secret for Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions IS IN YOUR BRAIN!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! So how many of you who made a New Year’s resolution are still keeping up with it? Believe it or not, studies show that 90% of you will break or abandon your New Year’s resolutions by the second part of January! Are you in that group? Do you want to change that? Well, here are a couple of great tips that have recently come out of findings in neuroscience on how your brain, language, and emotions all play an important role when you actually made your resolution. The first reason deals with neurolinguistics and the word resolution itself. The other key entails the emotional part of your brain and the emotional state you were in when you made your resolutions. In fact your language, brain, and emotions all are factors in determining if you’ll succeed or succumb to your New Year’s resolutions. Curious to learn some easy tips how your brain can help you stick to your New Year’s goals?

Let’s start with the hidden power of language and your thoughts by exploring the wordresolution. When you break down this word, a resolution is in reality a re-solution When you re-solve to do something, you’re generally re-solving a problem or a situation. So if your New Year’s resolution sounds something like, “I re-solve to eat more properly, I re-solve to quit smoking, I re-solve to exercise more regularly, etc.” the underlying message is that you’re attempting to “solve a problem” in your life and judge aspects of yourself that you dislike. While I agree that wanting to manifest changes in your life are worthwhile, if you’re making them from an emotional and mental place of low self-esteem, self-judgment, and self-pity, it only makes it that much harder to continue with your goals and intentions for wanting greater health and happiness. 

This idea of making resolutions from a psychological state of negative thinking connects to the other piece regarding your brain and emotions. The latest findings in neuroscience state that your brain is biologically wired to remember more negative thoughts and emotions over positive ones. The neuropsychologist, Dr. Rick Hanson, sums it up nicely by stating, “The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.” I’m sure many of you can relate to this idea, but why is that your minds tend to remember the painful, negative experiences but not so much the joyous, happy moments? There’s actually a neurobiological answer that has to do with something called anegativity bias. At the University of Washington a study revealed how a negative experience remains wired into your brain more strongly than a positive one. In fact, it takes up to five positive experiences to outweigh a negative thought! So whenever you perceive aspects of your life as a problem, your consciousness automatically perceives them as negative or unwanted aspects of yourself that you have to rid in order to be perfect, happy, etc. This type of thinking only generates and perpetuates low self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness that in turn compound your attitude of failure and frustration. So it’s no wonder that you might lack commitment and abandon your hopes and dreams that you made with enthusiasm at the start of the New Year. So what’s the answer to stop your unhealthy thoughts of shame or guilt when it comes to making New Year’s resolutions in order to lead a more happy and healthy life?

I invite you to consider the possibility that rather than making a New Year’s re-solutionyou make a New Year’s re-intention for what you want to manifest in 2013! How does that sound to you? Say to yourself – “I’m making a New Year’s REINTENTION!” When you say this phrase, you set a positive intention to manifest change in your life by affirming aspects of your life that are currently working for you. By making a re-intention you focus on all the empowered positive choices you’ve already made, rather than on re-solving all the problems you believe exist in your life. In the same way that a re-solution "solves" a problem you don't like in your life, a re-intention "intends" a committment for you to change something in your life. 

In the fields of cognitive psychology and neurolinguistics, the language and words that you use have a very powerful impact on how you act and how you live. In neuroscience, this concept is known as creating a neural network. The thoughts and words that you choose to believe about yourself rewire your brain physiology eventually creating a neural network that reinforces these patterns of consciousness. (Watch video of brain making a new thought) In essence, your thoughts literally influence your brain, body, and being! As the Buddha eloquently states, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world.” This quote is relevant to our discussion. When you shift your thoughts and language from a re-solutionto a problem to a re-intention to affirm change in your life, you in turn alter your consciousness from viewing your life as a series of pesky problems to one of joyous affirmations.

So here are two great exercises you can do. The first is to reword your New Year’s re-solutions into re-intentions. Taking the examples of resolutions I used earlier, you can rephrase them by saying, “I intend to continue being happy, healthy and to love myself in 2013 by eating more properly, by quitting smoking, and by exercising more regularly.” Can you feel a difference in the language in this new intention? The fundamental shift is that your re-intentions begin with your intention to the positive and joyous aspects of your life, which in turn make it easier to create the changes you want

The second tool, which addresses the negativity bias, is to make a list of five aspects or qualities in your life that you already do well. If you recall it can take up to five positive thoughts and emotions to outweigh an unhealthy one. I encourage you to have this list near you at all times by keeping it on your cell phone, in your wallet or purse, your bathroom mirror, on the fridge, or on your office desk. This is your “affimations” list, which will help alleviate any frustration and disappointment you might have as you move forward in your goals for 2012. Repeat these affirmations to yourself on a daily basis, or whenever you feel the need.

These exercises of rewording your resolutions to re-intentions and of creating your “affirmation list” help you to focus on those aspects of life that empower you, instead of shame or guilt you. In turn, cultivating more emotionally and mentally healthy thoughts creates the foundation for more transformation to occur in your life. In just a short time, you will quickly learn to use these newly created New Year’s re-intentions and begin the gradual steps to realize your goals. The key word here is gradual. Deep and profound change rarely happens instantly or overnight. So be patient and compassionate to yourself, knowing the great news is that you can continue manifesting your New Year’s re-intentions all throughout 2013! Watch the full video clip on Youtube here to learn more!

So if you’ve already broken your New Year’s resolutions, I’m here to tell you that there’s still hope. The answer for you to fulfill your dreams and goals for the year and beyond is to transform your New Year’s re-solutions to New Year’s re-intentions. Have a wonderful day and an amazing 2013 as you manifest genuine health and abundant happiness in Brain, Body, & Being! 

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Humanity's Great Global Awakening

Well, after years of hype December 21, 2012 is here! Unless you've been hiding in a cave with no internet access the past few months, I'm sure you've read or heard in the collective media about the possible fate of the world on this day. Whether you're a skeptic or believer that this popularized calendar date has any major significance for humanity is to be seen. 

I've been frequently asked over the past few weeks by students, clients, and many people what exactly does this event mean for the planet. So I thought, why not just share my views on the matter with everyone, once and for all. So do I believe that our world is coming to an end? No, I don't! What I do believe is that our current worldview is coming to an end!  

How many of you remember the lyrics to the famous David Bowie song, “Turn and face the strange ch..ch…changes!” It seems that everyone is experiencing change on some level. All around us major transformations are occurring in humanity and around the planet. While I’ve explored the nature of change and why we can sometimes fear it in previous posts (full article here), many of us still might be confused, anxious, or even fearful of the monumental shifts happening all around. 

One of my favorite quotes comes from Charles Darwin who says, “It is not the strongest of the species
 that survives, nor the most intelligent,
 but the one most responsive to change.” In essence, change is inevitable! Ironically, change is the only constant of the universe and of life. The more we resist change, the more we suffer, the more we remain in fear, and the more we get stuck on the journey.

However, another way to view change can be as an awakening. One of my favorite movie lines comes from an old 1980’s film Joe versus the Volcano with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan. It goes, “Almost the whole world is asleep. Everybody you know, everyone you see, everyone you talk to. Only a few people are awake, and we live in constant and total amazement.” So when you can begin to see life not as a fearful and dreaded element of change, but as an adventurous, joyous, and exhilarating journey of awakening, that is when you truly start LIVING! 

Whether it was the Arab uprisings or Occupy Wall Street movements that were happening both here in the US and globally, one thing is for sure–the new emerging paradigm on the planet is about BECOMING AWAKE. Awake not in the physical sense, but in the context of human consciousness and global awareness of feeling alive, whole, vibrant, and most of all individually and collectively empowered. On the contrary, the old paradigm we’re releasing as a species was about being ASLEEP by feeling disconnected, isolated, depressed, devalued, ignorant, and disempowered.

I personally believe that humanity is in a time of tremendous transformation. All the current long-standing structures of the planet are transitioning as we awake to an emerging worldview of wholeness, interconnectedness, compassion, tolerance, and justice. In order for this shift to occur, all the old structures of separation, domination, oppression, nationalism, and fundamentalism have to come up in our collective consciousness so that they can be healed, if humanity is to evolve as a species.

A phrase I've said repeatedly in reference to Dec. 21, 2012 is that “THE SHIFT IS ABOUT TO HIT THE FAN – BIG TIME!” Depending on what side of the fan you’re standing on, that will determine how easily you’ll make the shift. If you happen to be standing on the side that fears all the changes, you might not like it when the “shift starts flying!”

In essence, what is happening right now and currently manifesting around the world is an AWAKENING! In Eastern philosophy, the word for "one who is awake" is known as a Buddha. The renowned Buddhist spirtual leader, Thich Nhat Hahn, nicely sums up this notion of global awakening by saying that the next Buddha is not going to be a person, but the actual planet and humanity! THE ENTIRE PLANET AND HUMANITY ARE THE NEXT BUDDHA.

This notion of transformation and awakening is even evident in the Biblical traditions. The Biblical concepts ofthe Apocalypse and of the Revelation both derive from words that mean to “reveal, awaken, lift back the veil.” The word apocalypse derives from the ancient Greek verb apokalyptein "to uncover, disclose, reveal," which in the Latin version of the Bible became the word revelatio “to reveal, unveil, uncover, disclose.” So for all you doomsday types out there who fear the Apocalypse or the Revelation as the end of the world, to you I say, “BEWARE, THE BEGINNING IS NEAR!”

Humanity's emerging worledview of wholeness and interconnectedness is not only a concept advanced by the many spiritual traditions of the world, it is one that science also states to the be the actual reality of our universe. In the exciting field of quantum physics and mechanics, there is the fundamental understanding that at the very basic level of the quantum realm, everything in the universe abides in a state of undivided wholeness. In this worldview concepts of time, space, and possibly even consciousness itself are entangled together in a unified state. According to academic colleagues of mine, who happen to be renowned quantum physicists, this new paradigm of holism is gradually evolving within the sciences with the potential radically to transform all of humanity's platforms such as medicine, ecology, economics, neuroscience, and the very evolution of human consciousness. Indeed, we are living in exciting times!

As more of us become awake, the more this awakening accelerates around the planet. It only takes a small but dedicated few of us to be catalysts for humanity’s great awakening. As the noted anthropologist Margaret Mead once insightfully observed, “Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has.”

Always remember just how amazing and incredible you are, and just how joyous and magnificent life is. The key to navigating these times of change and transformation is to “change” your attitude toward change. Once you begin to understand that the personal and planetary changes are nothing more than humanity’s powerful awakening, you will be just fine!

Keep on Living Your Light® as you keep on Awakening Into Your Light!


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Let Your Light Shine: Encouraging Words for Living Your Divine Purpose with Dr. Jay Kumar

I'm thrilled to have been the guest on last week's THE YOGA HOUR with Rev. Ellen O'Brian, as we discussed how the ancient wisdom of the Bhagavad Gita can have contemporary applications in your life for authentic health and wellbeing! A really great podcast that I know you'll enjoy.

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Affirming Your New Year's Resolutions!

Happy 2012! So how many of you who made a New Year’s resolution are still keeping up with it? Believe it or not, studies show that 90% of you will break or abandon your New Year’s resolutions by the second part of January! Do you wonder why that is? Well, I have a couple of ideas. One reason deals with language and the word “resolution” itself. The other key entails your brain and the emotional place from which you make your resolutions. In fact your language, brain, and emotions all are factors in determining if you’ll succeed or succumb to your New Year’s resolutions. Curious to learn how you can stick to your New Year’s goals?

Let’s start with the power of language and thoughts and explore the word “resolution.” When you break down this word, a “resolution” is in reality a “re-solution” When you “re-solve” to do something, you’re generally “re-solving” a problem or a situation. So if your New Year’s resolution sounds something like, “I resolve to eat more properly, I resolve to quit smoking, I resolve to exercise more regularly, etc.” the underlying message is that you’re attempting to “solve a problem” in your life and judge aspects of yourself that you dislike. While I agree that all of these resolutions are worthwhile to make, if you’re making them all from an emotional and mental place of low self-esteem, self-judgment, and self-pity, it only makes it that much harder to continue with your goals and intentions for wanting greater health and happiness.

This idea of making resolutions from a psychological state of negative thinking connects to the other piece regarding your brain and emotions. The latest findings in neuroscience state that your brain is biologically wired to remember more negative thoughts and emotions over positive ones. The neuropsychologist, Dr. Rick Hanson, sums it up nicely by stating, “The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.” I’m sure many of you can relate to this idea, but why is that your minds tend to remember the painful, negative experiences but not so much the joyous, happy moments? There’s actually a neurobiological answer that has to do with something called a “negativity bias.” At the University of Washington a study revealed how a negative experience remains wired into your brain more strongly than a positive one. In fact, it takes up to five positive experiences to outweigh a negative thought!

So whenever you perceive aspects of your life as a problem, your consciousness automatically perceives them as negative or unwanted aspects of yourself that you have to rid in order to be perfect, happy, etc. This type of thinking only generates and perpetuates low self-esteem and feelings of unworthiness that in turn compound your attitude of failure and frustration. So it’s no wonder that you might lack commitment and abandon your hopes and dreams that you made with enthusiasm at the New Year. So what’s the answer to stop your unhealthy thoughts of shame or guilt when it comes to making New Year’s resolutions to aspects you perceive as problems in your life?

I invite you to consider the possibility that rather than making a New Year’s “re-solution” you make a New Year’s “re-affirmation” for what you want to manifest in 2012! How does that sound to you? Say to yourself – “I’m making a New Year’s REAFFIRMATION!” When you say this phrase, you begin to “affirm” aspects of your life that are already great and working for you. By making a reaffirmation you focus on all the empowered positive choices you’ve already made, rather than on “re-solving” all the problems you believe exist in your life.

In the fields of cognitive psychology and neurolinguistics, the language and words that you use have a very powerful impact on how you act and how you live. In neuroscience, this concept is known as creating a “neural net.” The thoughts and words that you choose to believe about yourself rewire your brain physiology eventually creating a neural net that reinforces these patterns of consciousness. In essence, your thoughts literally influence your health and wellbeing. As the Buddha eloquently stated, “We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make our world.” This quote is relevant to our discussion. When you shift your thoughts and language from “re-solving” a problem to “re-affirming” an intention, you in turn alter your consciousness from viewing your life as a series of pesky problems to one of joyous affirmations.

So here are two great exercises you can do. The first is to reword your New Year’s resolutions into reaffirmations. Taking the examples of resolutions I used earlier, you can rephrase them by saying, “I reaffirm to continue being happy, healthy and to love myself in 2012 by eating more properly, by quitting smoking, and by exercising more regularly.” Can you feel a difference in the language of this new affirmation from the previous resolution? The fundamental shift is that your reaffirmations begin by “re-affirming” the positive and joyous aspects of your life, which in turn make it easier to create the changes you want.

The second tool, which addresses the “negativity bias,” is to make a list of five aspects or qualities in your life that you already do well. If you recall it can take up to five positive thoughts and emotions to outweigh an unhealthy one. I encourage you to have this list near you at all times by keeping it on your cell phone, in your wallet or purse, or on your office desk. This is your “affirmation” list, which will help alleviate any frustration and disappointment you might have as you move forward in your goals for 2012. Repeat these affirmations to yourself on a daily basis, or whenever you feel the need.

These exercises of rewording your resolutions to reaffirmations and of creating your “affirmation list” help you to focus on those aspects of life that empower you, instead of shame or guilt you. In turn, cultivating more emotionally and mentally healthy thoughts creates the foundation for more transformation to occur in your life. In just a short time, you will quickly learn to use these newly created New Year’s reaffirmations and begin the gradual steps to realize your goals. The key word here is gradual. Deep and profound change rarely happens instantly or overnight. So be patient and compassionate to yourself, knowing the great news is that you can enjoy your New Year’s reaffirmations all throughout 2012! Watch the full video clip on Youtube here to learn more!

So if you’ve already broken your New Year’s resolutions, I’m here to tell you that there’s still hope. The answer for you to fulfill your dreams and goals for the year and beyond is to transform your New Year’s “resolutions” to New Year’s “reaffirmations.” Have a wonderful day and an amazing 2012, as you continue Living Your Lightâ with your new reaffirmations!

 

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5 Empowering Lessons from 9/11" - Podcast "AWAKE with Dr. Jay Kumar!

As we commemorate the 10-year anniversary of 9/11, I hope that these "5 Empowering Lessons from 9/11" enable you to live more in wholeness, health, and abundance. As the famous American author, William Faulkner, once declared, “I believe that mankind will not merely endure: it will prevail. It is immortal, not because it alone among creatures has an inexhaustible voice, but because it has a soul, a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance.” I truly believe that we humans, both individually and collectively, will not just survive from the tragedy of 9/11, but that we will thrive as a species as we dispel our petty differences and embrace our common humanity!

AWAKE & ENJOY!

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Five Empowering Lessons from 9/11

While we commemorate another anniversary of the 9/11 tragedy, many of us might be reliving the pain, anguish and grief that we experienced both individually and collectively on that life-altering day. However, as truly horrific the events of 9/11 were, they can also provide valuable lessons that enable us to grow, evolve and eventually to heal as people and as a planet. Below are five life-empowering lessons that I invite you to receive as we mark the events of that pivotal day in humanity’s history.

• Viewing Loss as Change – While we grieve over the tragic loss of life and even the loss of our way of life in the aftermath of 9/11, the first step toward our personal and planetary healing is to view loss as merely change. We must understand that everyone is unable to avoid change (in both its empowering and challenging forms). We always have some change and transformation always happening in our life. The only way to cope with loss in life is by accepting them merely as change. I believe that change comes in two forms, as either an empowering, joyous experience that you embrace or as a painful, traumatic process that you dread. So why do we embrace the positive form of change but not when the change manifests as loss? Perhaps it is due to the innate human condition that views loss as something that causes uncertainty of the future over which we have no control. While we each experience loss in different ways, most of us react to loss through anger, grief, despair, frustration, or even denial. While all these emotions are valid in their own form, they are merely the ways in which we similarly react when life events seem out of control. If you can learn to shift the perception of loss to see it merely as just one form of change, the process of healing can begin as we transform our suffering into acceptance. The fundamental way to work through loss is to view it within the larger context of change. In the same way that the change brought on by losing a job or loved one can eventually become an opportunity for growth and expansion, I believe the same is true with the loss we all experienced during 9/11. The key resides once we merely see loss for what it truly is–change. As the noted scientist and natural philosopher Charles Darwin once said, “It is not the strongest of the species
that survives, nor the most intelligent,
 but the one most responsive to change.”

The Power of Choice – Every moment in our life, we have the power of choice. Do we use our power to act in love, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness, and trust or from a place of fear, distrust, anger, vengeance, and hatred? I believe that this lesson is the greatest one that 9/11 offers to us. While we initially reacted to the calamity of 9/11 with shock, anger, and the need for vengeance, the opportunity also existed to respond from a place of compassion and wisdom. A few months back I had the privilege of hearing His Holiness the Dalai Lama speak here in Los Angeles the day after Osama bin Laden was eliminated. Commenting on the event, the Dalai Lama said, “Forgiveness doesn't mean forget what happened…If something is serious and it is necessary to take counter-measures, you have to take counter-measures." I believe that His Holiness refers to the ability for us individually and collectively to take action when absolutely necessary, but also to hold compassion to the person or group who committed the act. In essence, we can extend compassion and forgiveness to the individuals behind 9/11, but not forget their actions nor allow them to happen again. As the Buddha famously preached, Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” 

Healing Our Fear of “The Other” - In the case of Osama bin Laden, Hitler, or repressive dictators throughout history, they chose to act out from a place of fear toward those who held worldviews different from their own. Alternatively, there are those like Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, and Mother Theresa who use their power to dispel fear and hatred and to cultivate tolerance and compassion. You may have observed that right after 9/11 and also in the past few month various religious figures and major media networks want us to live in fear of those who are of a different race, sexuality, nationality, political view, religion, etc. While there are some in our society who advocate labeling people “white/black/Asian/Latino,” “Christian/Muslim/,” “gay/straight,” “Republican/Democrat,” “Conservative/Liberal,” “American/Middle Eastern,” we just need to see each other as fellow human beings first and foremost. Everything else is secondary and is just a category into which we put other people. Interestingly, in many of the world’s languages the word “heal” is related to the word “whole.” When you live your life from a place of fear, you are also living from a place fragmentation. Thus, you are not living from a place of wholeness because you are not healed. On a collective level, the paradigm of fear and mistrust appear in our national need for control and domination in an “us” versus “them” worldview. What 9/11 offers us on our path toward personal healing and planetary wholeness is to release our fear of the unknown and of those who happen to live a different way of life. It is about celebrating human diversity and not seeing others way of life as a threat to our own. 

• The Power of the One Affects the Whole - A corollary to the two previous lessons is never to forget that your thoughts and actions influence others. If you choose to react and live in fear, anger, and hatred you give permission for others to do the same. However, if you choose to act from a place of authentic power, forgiveness, compassion, love, tolerance, and joy you also allow others to do the same. As more of us awake and realize the common bond that unites humanity, the more we become whole and healed. As more wholeness unfolds on the planet through our individual healing, all aspects of separation and fragmentation can no longer be tolerated, for us individually and collectively. The lessons from 9/11 provide each of us the ability to influence the greater whole. If we allow the events of 9/11 to have each of us live in fear, mistrust, and anger, we in turn give permission to those around us, especially to our children, to do the same. It is important to remember that children are not born to hate and to be racists or bigots; for these are attributes that they learn from their environment. However, if we recognize the power of choosing to live in trust, empowerment, and truth, we allow our children to learn and to live by our example. As Elizabeth Kubler-Ross says, “I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Basically, our collective worldview will change only when we change our individual view of the world. Again, it all boils down to knowing that your thoughts and actions do indeed influence the greater whole. 

 • Reevaluate Your Values – The final lesson that 9/11 imparts to us is to recognize what truly is of value in our life. When the planes went down on 9/11 and the people trapped in the World Trade Center knew the end was near, the cell calls they made weren’t about trivial matters but were about expressing love and gratitude to those they would never see again. While having a great job, a home, and financial security are ideals that our society prizes, they are not the real values that matter. Our family, friends, pets, nature, health, and happiness, and all that which money cannot buy are what truly matter at the end of the day. One of the common bonds uniting all humans on this planet is our mortality. The painful circumstances of 9/11 demonstrated that life is such a rare and precious gift.  In the Eastern traditions it is said that the key to health and happiness is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and fully. For it is in this very moment when the abundance and beauty of life present themselves to us in all forms. As I like to say, “At the end of the day it’s not about how much of a living you made but about how much you lived!"

However you choose to mark the anniversary of 9/11, I hope that these lessons empower you to live more in wholeness, health, and abundance. As the famous American author, William Faulkner, once declared, “I believe that mankind will not merely endure: it will prevail. It is immortal, not because it alone among creatures has an inexhaustible voice, but because it has a soul, a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance.” I truly believe that we humans, both individually and collectively, will not just survive from the tragedy of 9/11, but that we will thrive as a species as we dispel our petty differences and embrace our common humanity!

In remembrance and respect to all who were lost that day.

Sincerely,

Dr. Jay Kumar
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