Swimming in the Ocean of Love

"Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." Jelahaddin Rumi

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LOVE IS A FREQUENCY: ARE YOU TUNED IN?

Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! Regardless of whether you are married, partnered, dating or single, I hope you celebrate this beautiful holiday knowing that the power of love is ALWAYS around you! Valentine's Day commemorates the many ways you express love to those in life – your partner, spouse, children, family members, friends, or even with your pets. The emphasis of Valentine’s Day traditionally commemorates the romantic, familial and personal relationships in our lives, not to mention the commercial aspect of the holiday. However, you might be surprised to learn that current medical research now believes that experiencing feelings of love and compassion can actually be powerful healing emotions for the mind and body! Curious to learn how you can heal through the power of love?

So you probably already are aware of the "mind-body" connection, but did you know that scientific and medical research is beginning to advance the existence of a "mind-heart" link? Latest discoveries from both science and integrative medicine are indicating that the human heart is more than just an organ that pumps blood into your body. The big surprise to traditional medicine is that the human heart actually emits an electro-magnetic (EM) field of energy around your body. According to studies from the Institute of Heart Math, this cardiac field of energy is stronger than the one produced by your brain. Imagine that...your heart IS actually more powerful than your brain! This medical breakthrough now makes it possible to understand how different emotions we feel actually produce different frequencies within the body. The most amazing news is that our body’s different emotional frequencies might possibly affect your physical health. Preliminary findings now indicate that emotions of love, joy, and compassion produce stronger and more coherent fields around the human body than do the emotional frequencies of sadness, fear, and anger. Pretty amazing stuff! I guess the old adage “Love is the Cure” is right, after all.

You can learn more about these incredible findings in the two links below by ABC News and the Institute of Heart Math. Each delves into the pioneering science behind the powerful healing potential you manifest with your heart and by the power of love! Feel free also to check out more articles by Dr. Jay Kumar on the science and spirituality of love in the special Valentine's Day "Love" newsletter.

Even though Valentine’s Day occurs once a year, why just let this day be the one when you celebrate love. LET EVERY DAY, EVERY HOUR, EVERY MOMENT of your life become an ecstatic and conscious celebration of LOVE, not only to others but also to yourself. As you honor the sacred and beautiful being that you are, may your love and light shine forth fully and brightly, and always remember that the world would be a much dimmer place without you here! 

The Science behind the Healing Power of Love (ABC News)

Science of the Heart (Heart Math)

Lastly, here's an inspiring and moving video that shows the Power of Love in action. Enjoy!

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Healing Power of Love

So you probably already are aware of the "body-mind" connection, but did you know that scientific and medical research is beginning to advance the existence of a "heart-mind" link? Latest discoveries indicate that the human heart is more than just an organ that pumps blood into your body. The big surprise coming out of medicine is that the human heart actually emits an electro-magnetic field of energy around your body. According to studies from the Institute of Heart Math, this cardiac field of energy is stronger than the one produced by your brain. Imagine that...your heart IS actually more powerful than your brain! This medical breakthrough now makes it possible to understand how different emotions we feel actually produce different frequencies within the body. Preliminary findings now indicate that emotions of love, joy, and compassion produce stronger and more coherent fields around the human body than do the emotional frequencies of sadness, fear, and anger. Pretty amazing stuff!

You can learn more about these incredible findings from the two brief videos by ABC News and from the Institute of Heart Math. Each delves into the pioneering science behind the powerful healing potential we manifest with our heart and by the power of love!

Healing Power of Love

Science of the Heart

 

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Celebrating LOVE of SELF

There is a beautiful metaphor from the Eastern traditions that relates just as one can never truly describe the sweet flavor of an orange without tasting it…the same is true with love. One cannot begin to describe in words the joy and sweetness of love without tasting its fruit. Your first step to savoring the succulent and divine fruit of love in all aspects of life is to cultivate the powerful and all-encompassing relationship first to YOU by celebrating love of Self!

I often like to say that we are nothing more than “humans in divine play.” We are all aspects of a universal divine energy choosing to have a wordly experience in the physical body. Many of the religious and spiritual traditions of the world express the common belief that we are merely spirits, who consciously chose to incarnate into the physical plane in order to express and celebrate the divine and sacred love of creation. The Indian philosopher and spiritual teacher, Paramahansa Yogananda, poetically describes that just as oil is present in every part of the olive, so too does love permeate all aspects of the universe. The way in which universe celebrates love is through YOU. Each and every one of you is a sacred aspect of divine creation, and you each carry within the divine spark of love that burns passionately at the core of your being.

Knowing that everyone embodies the eternal spark of divine love within, why is that so many choose to experience confusion, loneliness, fear, emptiness, drama or apathy in life? Why do you choose to close your hearts to the sacred universal love that, like the oil forever present throughout the olive, permeates all aspects of existence? To answer this question, I offer you a quote from the contemporary Buddhist teacher, Pema Chodron, who so accurately states in her very eloquent way, “The only reason we don't open our hearts and minds to other people is that they trigger confusion in us that we don't feel brave enough or sane enough to deal with. To the degree that we can look clearly and compassionately at ourselves, will we feel confident and fearless about looking into someone else's eyes.”

The key to experiencing genuinely nurturing relationships and to receiving authentic love in your life occurs only when you are able firstly to embody and love unconditionally ALL those aspects within yourself that comprise your true being. Only by accepting compassionately without judgment all that you are–your light, your joy, your truth AS WELL as your pain, your vulnerability and your fears will you be able to extend unconditional love to all areas of your life and to all those in your life.

One of the fundamental tenets being advanced in the field of quantum physics is that the universe appears to operate on the “law of resonance and attraction.” Additionally, theories from cognitive studies and neuroscience suggest that your thoughts are just fluctuating energies of consciousness. Since the universe is fundamentally comprised of energies vibrating at various frequencies, the frequency of energy that your thoughts resonate on and the belief systems you project will attract that exact same energy into your life. Simply put, whatever you believe about your Self is exactly what you experience. Your thoughts, thus, literally do create your reality! The universe is nothing more than an objective and impartial mirror that reflects back on to you EXACTLY what it is you believe about the world and about yourself. If for example, you are vibrating on a frequency of fear or self-loathing, the universe will simply mirror back to you situations, people and relationships that not only match, but also reinforce these patterns and belief systems. If, however, you choose to resonate on the frequency and energy of unconditional love and abundance, beginning first with yourself, the universe reflects back on to you these qualities that, in turn, manifest in all aspects of your life– especially in your relationships!

This principle, known as the “law of resonance and attraction,” can easily be seen by a simple experiment. Placing two identical pianos in the same room, when you strike a key on one piano the exact same chord will begin automatically to vibrate in the other piano. This phenomenon of “resonance and attraction” occurs for you, as well, understanding that ultimately you, everyone else and the universe are governed by the same rules of physics. Just as the second piano mirrors back the same note from the first piano, similarly the universe and others reflect back to you whatever energy and frequency you emit. You attract what you resonate!

Your body also contains various energy centers, known in the Indian tradition as chakras. These chakras, although not physically visible, are the portals through which divine energy enters and manifests in the body. You can also think of these chakras as vibrating energy centers that, like the piano, emit frequencies. The chakra said to be located near the heart is known in Sanskrit, the ancient sacred language of India, as anaahata and loosely translates as “the place where nothing clashes or comes into conflict.” Only when you abide as an integrated whole honoring, accepting and truly loving all that you are, do you release all the clashing and conflict that you hold onto in your heart. Just as the pianos react to different frequencies, you also respond to every  vibration of energy produced by your thoughts, emotions, and beliefs you hold about yourself. When you are able to embrace all that you find in discord within you and hold in harmony all aspects of yourself that you carry in your heart, only then can you truly begin to taste the divine nectar of the fruit of love! As the medieval poet Rumi masterfully writes, “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”

I invite you to commemorate this Valentine’s Day by acknowledging and embracing all that you hold onto in your life that prevents your body, mind, heart and soul from truly opening to the power of love that is all around and permeates the very fabric of existence. Observe and become a compassionate witness to all those aspects in life that you notice acting as barriers for you to be in harmony with universe and your spirit. You may ask yourself, “What is it that I hold onto physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually that prevents me from experiencing this divine love and joyous relationship with my divine being?” Again without holding judgment toward these barriers you carry within you, dedicate your Valentine’s Day to embracing and cherishing ALL THAT YOU ARE! For the more you can experience compassion and love to yourself, the more will you be able to revel in the love that awaits you! I think this quote from Leonardo Buscaglia sums it up quite nicely, "Love yourself. Accept yourself. 
Forgive yourself and be good to yourself. 
Because without YOU, the rest of US are without a source of many good things!"

Even though Valentine’s Day occurs once a year, why just let this day of the year be the one when you celebrate love. LET EVERY DAY, EVERY HOUR, EVERY MOMENT of your life become an ecstatic and conscious celebration of LOVE, not only to others but also to that sacred and most important relationship of all–the one with your Self. As you honor the sacred and beautiful divine being that you are, may your love and light shine forth fully and brightly and know that the world would be a much dimmer place without you here! 

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5 Tips to Health & Happiness for the Holidays!

HAPPY HOLIDAYS! As you move forward into the Holiday Season, I ask, “How many of you would like to experience greater happiness and health as you celebrate the Holidays?” While many of you may focus your New Year’s goals to become more fit and choose to lead a healthy lifestyle, don’t forget that your mental health and emotional happiness are equally important. Below are five great tips that I’ve shared over the years with my private clients and taught to my college students as ways to experience greater joy and wellbeing in life. I hope you find these important lessons helpful to follow as you have a truly HAPPY & HEALTHY 2012!

Don’t Buy More, Just Be More!” As much as our culture wants you to believe, material success does not equate to happiness. As I discussed in “Being Happy during the Happy Holidays,” authentic happiness cannot be measured by a price tag. In fact, researchers Ed Diener of the University of Illinois and Martin Seligman from the University of Pennsylvania in 2010 published findings in the journal Psychological Science in the Public Interest that while U.S. wealth has tripled over the past 50 years, our national wellbeing and happiness have been flat. It’s just as the famous line from The Beatles goes, “Money can’t buy me love.” While having material and financial stability are vital for your way of life, the point is that the real indicators for happiness are not found in your bank account, stock portfolio, or the size of your car or house. Rather, focus on what truly is of value in your life—family, friends, loved ones, and enjoying life! Studies conducted by Dr. Sonja Lyubomirsky at UC Riverside show that people who are happiest also have strong social connections and deep personal relationships with friends and family. We humans are social animals, after all. We need to feel a sense of belonging and connection to the greater whole. So the next time you get stressed, feel anxious about finances, or worry that you can’t afford that luxury car or home, remember that the real treasures in life, the love of our family and friends, are free!

 Gratitude is a Healthy Attitude” Expressing gratitude for what you have, no matter how small it is, can also contribute to your greater health and happiness. In the past few years, scientists now recognize that gratitude is one of the most powerful and healthiest of human emotions. Studies at University of Miami, UC Davis, and other universities successfully demonstrate that remembering to be grateful for what you have in life can greatly outweigh any sadness, stress, or challenges you might currently experience. Further discoveries in neuroscience suggest that when you experience gratitude, the left pre-frontal cortex of the brain, an area that correlates to emotions of love and compassion, begins to activate. As I like to say, “Gratitude turns WHAT YOU HAVE into enough, creates contentment for WHAT IS, and manifests greater joy for WHO YOU ARE!” If you can’t express gratitude for what you already have, how can you expect to be grateful for all the prosperity and abundance that awaits you in 2012! Read more on gratitude in “Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude 

Practice Compassion and Kindness” As His Holiness the Dalai Lama often says, “If you want to be happy, make others happy!” In the past two decades, research into the human brain has discovered that we possess a peculiar thing known as a mirror neuron. Scientists know believe that these mirror neurons are the reason why humans, along with certain primates, elephants, dogs, and dolphins, are biologically wired to experience the emotions of others. Mirror neurons suggest that the human brain has evolved to experience both the pain and euphoria of others. It is this biological conditioning that may account for human empathy and compassion. Brain scans reveal that expressing more compassion and kindness helps you develop these mirror neurons, and it is this notion of compassion and empathy toward others that ultimately allows you to experience greater happiness and wellbeing on a daily basis. So the more kindness you practice toward people, the happier they become and the happier you become! Learn more about mirror neurons and the mind in “The Neuroscience of Health and Happiness." 

Keep Thinking Good Thoughts” Did you know that it takes at least FIVE good thoughts to outweigh a negative one! Neuropsychologist Dr. Rick Hanson states, “The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.” I’m sure many of you can relate to this idea, but why is that our minds tend to remember the painful, negative experiences but not so much the joyous, happy moments? There’s actually a neurobiological answer that has to do with something called a “negativity bias.” At the University of Washington a study revealed how a negative experience remains wired into your brain more strongly than a positive one. In fact, it takes up to five positive experiences to outweigh a negative thought! Neurobiologists believe that this “negative bias” of the human brain was an evolutionary trait that helped early humans survive by allowing the brain to react to, remember, and recall life-threatening experiences. Imagine you were an early human chased by a lion; your brain would store that information into a neural net, recalling that memory as a survival mechanism. The lesson is that in order to experience authentic happiness, you actively have to focus on the positive to overcome the negative experiences in your life that your brain has imprinted into your consciousness. Learn more about how your psychology influences your biology in the“The Healing Power of Thought.”

Just Breathe!” One of the simplest and most effective tools you have to alleviate stress and create more happiness in your life is to create some sacred, personal time in your day. I find that one of the easiest ways to do this is to focus on your breath for as little as five minutes a day. Dr. James S. Gordon, a clinical professor of psychiatry at the Georgetown University Medical School, states, “Slow, deep breathing is probably the single best anti-stress medicine we have.” You may be surprised to learn that doing mindful, calm breathing exercises for just five minutes a day can begin to shift your emotional and mental health. In the growing field of mind-body medical research, studies show that focusing on your breathing, specifically on the quality and state of your breath, might be the key to unlock your potential for health and happiness. Let’s face it, most of us do shallow breathing, i.e. not connecting our breath deep into the belly. Deep-belly breathing has now been shown in numerous studies to have a significant benefit on your neurophysiology, calming and soothing both your mind and body. When you connect and focus on your breath by taking deep and slow inhalations and exhalations, your nervous system and brain waves begin to come into balance and coherence. When your brain and body are in alignment you tend to cultivate the “four C’s” of calmness, contentment, caring and creativity. Watch the Self-Guided Breathing Video to learn how to alleviate stress and to experience greater happiness in your daily life.

As you begin 2012, a phrase to remember is that “happiness is not something that happens to you, but rather it is something you create.” I hope you enjoy integrating these five tips for happiness and wellbeing into your daily life. For those who would like to cultivate greater health and happiness in 2012, I invite you to join me at the Health, Wellness & Gourmet Living Retreat in the Loire Valley of France May 27-June 2, 2012. Enjoy a week of learning how to implement these tools into your life in the relaxing and healing French countryside with yoga, meditation, gourmet food and wine. Lastly, always remember that you are powerful, whole, amazing, and unique in every way. Never be afraid to let your light shine forth fully and brightly, for the world would be a much dimmer place without you in it! Keep on Living Your Light® in 2012!

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"LOVE IS A FREQUENCY, Stay Tuned!"

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Cultivating an Attitude of Gratitude

As we celebrate the long Thanksgiving weekend and the beginning of the Holiday season, it's easy to forget the true meaning and purpose of this time of year. Even though Thanksgiving is a North American holiday, its significance is universal regardless of your nationality, spiritual faith, or cultural believes.

For those not familiar with the holiday, Thanksgiving is an annual feast that honors the bounty of the autumn harvest and celebrates the abundance that nature provides. For millennia, both the European and Native American cultures marked the harvest time by giving thanks to the plentitude and nourishment that the earth gives for our livelihood. Eventually the European and Native American traditions merged into what we now know as Thanksgiving. In essence, Thanksgiving is truly much more than a North American holiday, as it is a way for all of us to "give thanks" and to express gratitude for all that we have in life–health, abundance, love, family, friends, and, of course, the traditional Thanksgiving feast.

In our modern culture, Thanksgiving sadly also has become synonymous with shopping and consumerism. Contrary to what we hear and see on TV, billboards, and internet, the essence of the Thanksgiving holiday is not about getting the best deals on Black Friday or to be swept up in the shopping frenzy of the Holidays. Rather, it is a time to pause and reflect on all that truly is of value in life. As I like to say the key to happiness and true joy is, "Not Buy More, Be More!”

However you ultimately choose to mark and honor this Thanksgiving weekend and the upcoming Holidays I invite you to remember their original significance–that is to give thanks and cultivate an attitude of gratitude for all the abundance in our life. In fact, new studies of the brain from neuropsychology state that gratitude is one of the easiest and healthiest ways to experience overall wellbeing in body, mind, and spirit. In the past few years, scientists now recognize that gratitude is one of the most powerful and healthiest of human emotions. Studies at University of Miami, UC Davis, and other universities successfully demonstrate that remembering to be grateful for what we have in life can greatly outweigh any sadness, stress, or challenges we might currently experience.

The reason why expressing gratitude has such a strong effect is its ability to connect us to other people. Generally, when we express thanks we acknowledge the actions of others. Being grateful enables us to expand our thoughts away from our own individual concerns so that we remember the joy and happiness that others provide. You can learn more about the Neuroscience of Health & Happiness here.

Basically, when we experience gratitude we hit the proverbial “pause button” in our mind. We shift away from our repetitive thoughts, our worries, and anxiety and begin to focus on happiness, joy, and love. From the perspective of neuroscience, the part of our brain that fires when we give thanks is the left pre-frontal cortex, the same area responsible for feeling love and compassion. In addition to boosting your emotional and psychological health, cultivating an attitude of gratitude has physical benefits. As we experience greater levels of gratitude, neurotransmitters in the brain release chemicals to stave off stress, depression, and anxiety.

One of the easiest ways that I find to generate feelings of gratitude is to make a list of all that you’re grateful for in life. Your list might include your family, spouse, partner, children, pet, or possibly even your health, the beauty of nature, and the very fact of being alive. Make copies of this list and place them by your bed, on your office desk, or on the fridge, or places that are most visible to you. Every time you look at this list, repeat out loud to yourself one thing on your list that you are grateful for in life. Not only verbalize the statement but truly feel it. Envision that person, place, or idea in your thoughts and connect to the emotion of gratitude and joy that accompany the memory. Like with our body, neuroscience also states that our mind is also a muscle that can be trained and developed. As we cultivate greater gratitude for what we have in life, we automatically experience a healthy attitude toward life! Read full article on the neuroscience and psychology of gratitude here.

As you enjoy and commemorate this Thanksgiving weekend always remember all that you're grateful for in life. Never forget that the greatest gift is actually your presence in the world. According to the eloquent words of Melody Beattie,"Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”

Keep on Living Your Light® as you enjoy this Thanksgiving weekend in gratitude, abundance, joy, and wellbeing.

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Five Empowering Lessons from 9/11

While we commemorate another anniversary of the 9/11 tragedy, many of us might be reliving the pain, anguish and grief that we experienced both individually and collectively on that life-altering day. However, as truly horrific the events of 9/11 were, they can also provide valuable lessons that enable us to grow, evolve and eventually to heal as people and as a planet. Below are five life-empowering lessons that I invite you to receive as we mark the events of that pivotal day in humanity’s history.

• Viewing Loss as Change – While we grieve over the tragic loss of life and even the loss of our way of life in the aftermath of 9/11, the first step toward our personal and planetary healing is to view loss as merely change. We must understand that everyone is unable to avoid change (in both its empowering and challenging forms). We always have some change and transformation always happening in our life. The only way to cope with loss in life is by accepting them merely as change. I believe that change comes in two forms, as either an empowering, joyous experience that you embrace or as a painful, traumatic process that you dread. So why do we embrace the positive form of change but not when the change manifests as loss? Perhaps it is due to the innate human condition that views loss as something that causes uncertainty of the future over which we have no control. While we each experience loss in different ways, most of us react to loss through anger, grief, despair, frustration, or even denial. While all these emotions are valid in their own form, they are merely the ways in which we similarly react when life events seem out of control. If you can learn to shift the perception of loss to see it merely as just one form of change, the process of healing can begin as we transform our suffering into acceptance. The fundamental way to work through loss is to view it within the larger context of change. In the same way that the change brought on by losing a job or loved one can eventually become an opportunity for growth and expansion, I believe the same is true with the loss we all experienced during 9/11. The key resides once we merely see loss for what it truly is–change. As the noted scientist and natural philosopher Charles Darwin once said, “It is not the strongest of the species
that survives, nor the most intelligent,
 but the one most responsive to change.”

The Power of Choice – Every moment in our life, we have the power of choice. Do we use our power to act in love, compassion, tolerance, forgiveness, and trust or from a place of fear, distrust, anger, vengeance, and hatred? I believe that this lesson is the greatest one that 9/11 offers to us. While we initially reacted to the calamity of 9/11 with shock, anger, and the need for vengeance, the opportunity also existed to respond from a place of compassion and wisdom. A few months back I had the privilege of hearing His Holiness the Dalai Lama speak here in Los Angeles the day after Osama bin Laden was eliminated. Commenting on the event, the Dalai Lama said, “Forgiveness doesn't mean forget what happened…If something is serious and it is necessary to take counter-measures, you have to take counter-measures." I believe that His Holiness refers to the ability for us individually and collectively to take action when absolutely necessary, but also to hold compassion to the person or group who committed the act. In essence, we can extend compassion and forgiveness to the individuals behind 9/11, but not forget their actions nor allow them to happen again. As the Buddha famously preached, Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” 

Healing Our Fear of “The Other” - In the case of Osama bin Laden, Hitler, or repressive dictators throughout history, they chose to act out from a place of fear toward those who held worldviews different from their own. Alternatively, there are those like Martin Luther King Jr., Mahatma Gandhi, and Mother Theresa who use their power to dispel fear and hatred and to cultivate tolerance and compassion. You may have observed that right after 9/11 and also in the past few month various religious figures and major media networks want us to live in fear of those who are of a different race, sexuality, nationality, political view, religion, etc. While there are some in our society who advocate labeling people “white/black/Asian/Latino,” “Christian/Muslim/,” “gay/straight,” “Republican/Democrat,” “Conservative/Liberal,” “American/Middle Eastern,” we just need to see each other as fellow human beings first and foremost. Everything else is secondary and is just a category into which we put other people. Interestingly, in many of the world’s languages the word “heal” is related to the word “whole.” When you live your life from a place of fear, you are also living from a place fragmentation. Thus, you are not living from a place of wholeness because you are not healed. On a collective level, the paradigm of fear and mistrust appear in our national need for control and domination in an “us” versus “them” worldview. What 9/11 offers us on our path toward personal healing and planetary wholeness is to release our fear of the unknown and of those who happen to live a different way of life. It is about celebrating human diversity and not seeing others way of life as a threat to our own. 

• The Power of the One Affects the Whole - A corollary to the two previous lessons is never to forget that your thoughts and actions influence others. If you choose to react and live in fear, anger, and hatred you give permission for others to do the same. However, if you choose to act from a place of authentic power, forgiveness, compassion, love, tolerance, and joy you also allow others to do the same. As more of us awake and realize the common bond that unites humanity, the more we become whole and healed. As more wholeness unfolds on the planet through our individual healing, all aspects of separation and fragmentation can no longer be tolerated, for us individually and collectively. The lessons from 9/11 provide each of us the ability to influence the greater whole. If we allow the events of 9/11 to have each of us live in fear, mistrust, and anger, we in turn give permission to those around us, especially to our children, to do the same. It is important to remember that children are not born to hate and to be racists or bigots; for these are attributes that they learn from their environment. However, if we recognize the power of choosing to live in trust, empowerment, and truth, we allow our children to learn and to live by our example. As Elizabeth Kubler-Ross says, “I believe that we are solely responsible for our choices, and we have to accept the consequences of every deed, word, and thought throughout our lifetime.” Basically, our collective worldview will change only when we change our individual view of the world. Again, it all boils down to knowing that your thoughts and actions do indeed influence the greater whole. 

 • Reevaluate Your Values – The final lesson that 9/11 imparts to us is to recognize what truly is of value in our life. When the planes went down on 9/11 and the people trapped in the World Trade Center knew the end was near, the cell calls they made weren’t about trivial matters but were about expressing love and gratitude to those they would never see again. While having a great job, a home, and financial security are ideals that our society prizes, they are not the real values that matter. Our family, friends, pets, nature, health, and happiness, and all that which money cannot buy are what truly matter at the end of the day. One of the common bonds uniting all humans on this planet is our mortality. The painful circumstances of 9/11 demonstrated that life is such a rare and precious gift.  In the Eastern traditions it is said that the key to health and happiness is not to mourn for the past, nor to worry about the future, but to live the present moment wisely and fully. For it is in this very moment when the abundance and beauty of life present themselves to us in all forms. As I like to say, “At the end of the day it’s not about how much of a living you made but about how much you lived!"

However you choose to mark the anniversary of 9/11, I hope that these lessons empower you to live more in wholeness, health, and abundance. As the famous American author, William Faulkner, once declared, “I believe that mankind will not merely endure: it will prevail. It is immortal, not because it alone among creatures has an inexhaustible voice, but because it has a soul, a spirit capable of compassion and sacrifice and endurance.” I truly believe that we humans, both individually and collectively, will not just survive from the tragedy of 9/11, but that we will thrive as a species as we dispel our petty differences and embrace our common humanity!

In remembrance and respect to all who were lost that day.

Sincerely,

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